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Respect Them Even When They Try To Kill You…

There was a time in my life that I was struggling to respect someone in a position of authority above me. My disdain for this person was growing daily. I was struggling to not only find anything good to say about this person but to this person. My attitude was beginning to show to those around me in how I treated this person.

This is when God brought me to the lesson of David and Saul. David had been chosen by God to be king. So he knew he was God’s man for the job. Saul was not a good king anymore. David had every cultural right and expectation to overthrow Saul and take what was, according to God, rightfully his. But he did not do this? Why? Because David honored God so much that it caused him to extend that honor to the man that God had originally placed in the kingship.

David had a couple of opportunities to kill Saul and he did not take them. These would have easily been justified as self defense because Saul was hunting David. On one of these instances David tore off a corner of Saul’s cloak to prove how close he was. But then he was convicted.

Now it happened afterward that David’s heart troubled him because he had cut Saul’s robe. And he said to his men, “The Lord forbid that I should do this thing to my master, the Lord’s anointed, to stretch out my hand against him, seeing he is the anointed of The Lord.
1 Samuel 24:5-6

How does David continue to speak well of Saul? By remembering that Saul is the Lord’s anointed.

There is so much more to this story than what I have simply stated above. But for today, I just want to make this point. When you are in a place of needing to honor and respect someone that you find difficult to honor and respect, remember that God has placed them in your life for a reason. Honor and respect them for the Lord’s sake, not theirs. David did this and God blessed him abundantly for it.

…those who honor Me I will honor…
1 Samuel 2:30b

Disclaimer: I am not trying to say that we should condone wrong doing or sin. This is speaking more of those who have lost our respect through actions in the gray areas. The areas of life that are not clear cut wrong doing, but simply not nice. If someone in authority is clearly sinning please seek The Lord and seek Spiritual advice as to how to proceed.

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Respect the Hat

What do you do when the person of authority is not worthy of the respect?

My pastor, Pat, often tells about a time, before he was a pastor, when he worked in the warehouse of a large hotel. He had to work with a chef at this hotel that did not handle the position of authority he was given properly. Pat had lost all respect for this gentleman and the two were not able to work together. Finally their boss had a conversation with the both of them to get to the bottom of the issue. Pat laid out all the reasons why he upset with the chef and his boss listened carefully. Finally he told Pat that the chef wasn’t going anywhere and that he was going to have to learn to work with him. “Can you respect this man at all?”, “no, I don’t think I can.” “Then can you at least respect the hat?” “Yes, sir, I think I can do that.”

Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God.
Romans 13:1

Find something in the person that you can respect and focus on that. Respect that. Pray for more things to respect and let it foster and grow. Only speak of the person in ways of respect. Even casual joking can be dangerous because you never know what you are fostering in someone else’s heart. This is speaking well of someone at the gates, making sure that what you say and do fosters respect in others and nothing else.

Disclaimer: I am not trying to say that we should condone wrong doing or sin. This is speaking more of those who have lost our respect through actions in the gray areas. The areas of life that are not clear cut wrong doing, but simply not nice. If someone in authority is clearly sinning please seek The Lord and seek Spiritual advice as to how to proceed.

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Respect Them Even When They Try To Kill You

31 Days minus a few

I have to admit I cannot keep this up. Which I guess is an act of humility in and of itself. With everything happening in my life right now for me to try to keep up the 31 days project is just not going to work. I will have to cut it short.

Day 21

My humility lesson of the day is also my biggest relief of the day. Family is home to help with grandma. That’s a relief. Now for the humble part. They can take care of her. Quit worrying.

By the way, my family is perfectly capable. I am aware of that. I am struggling to remember that. Hence, humility. It doesn’t have to be me. Haha.

Ok this is a lousily written post. I am exhausted.

Day 20

Humility. Does it make sense that sometimes someone being grateful for what you have done is humbling? I don’t know how to explain other than I feel I could do a better job and I feel like anyone would have done the same.

I am sorry I don’t have much today. My brain is tired.

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Today’s humbling experience was realizing what it is to the be family member asking the church to come visit. Funny as I have often wondered why people hesitate so much to call the church or to ask for prayer. I have never had to be the one to ask though. Normally we have family around. When something is happening and I forget to put it on the prayer chain its not a huge deal because my family is large and we are our own prayer chain just because of our size. I don’t need to ask for visitation because my family support is around and we are good. But this time everyone was gone. It wasn’t serious enough to ask my brother or cousins to come out. My parents and aunt and uncle were in another country and so it was just me and grandpa. And I needed the support.

Its hard to ask for help. Especially when its just emotional help. I needed the support today and because it wasn’t a physical or terribly serious issue, more just me running out verve to keep being the strong one, it was very humbling to admit that I needed the help.

But I didn’t even have to ask. I did ask but I wouldn’t have needed to. My Pastor already planned on coming. My brother offered. My cousin offered. It helped so much knowing everyone was willing.

I am not exactly sure why I ran out of steam today. But I am glad I did. I understand a bit more about why some people struggle to ask for a visitation from someone from the church, or why others won’t call and put things on the prayer chain. It seems so silly not to when its not your own situation, but when it is your situation it seems too silly to worry about.

At least in God’s eyes its all important right?

PS My grandmother is doing well.

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My dear readers, today was a long day of trying to get caught up at work and ending at being back at the hospital with my grandmother. She is doing well but they want to keep her another night and run more tests tomorrow because she seems to be reacting to the pain medications.

But in the midst of all of that I had a test today. I had a moment where I could have immediately reacted as usual and been overly opinionated. I would have ended up offending someone wrongly. Turns out I responded well, took a deep breath, waited a moment, and found out my first reaction would have been to the wrong information.

Perhaps posting about a moment of humility nullifies the humbleness? Funny thought. Regardless I am glad that I am seeing growth.

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